Why the Wand is Perfect For the Dom Gal Looking to Explore her Subby Side
I have never been able to fully give in to my submissive side. I had not found a partner dominate enough to compete with my energy, and I also wasn't able to go past a certain point during masturbation. There has always been this moment right before I am about to climax that becomes so intense I have to stop.
It was quite clear that I was not going to be able to do that for myself and I would need a partner who I felt comfortable with to take me there. In order for me to do this, it had to be the right kind of person, a lover who I could respect enough to let go of control. A lover who I could trust enough that I would know with him or her I am safe. I have a lot of energy and intensity and for the most part, my lovers have always been rather timid in comparison. Because of this I typically take sexual control which has left me feeling bored rather quickly, resulting in weaker orgasms and lack of satisfaction.
I’ve recently been seeing a new lover who is different from just about all of the others I have had. His ability to ease me in any situation was something I was certainly not used too and this dynamic translated to our sexual connection. He was the first partner I have ever had that I even felt I could ask to completely dominate me. Of course, he was completely up for the challenge when I asked him to tie me down and take control, not stopping unless I called out the safe word.
I was exhilarated by my inability to move as he restrained me forcefully and began to slide my clothes off slowly. I began to moisten between my legs as he started to touch me with a magic wand starting at a lower vibration to ease me into the situation. Waves of apprehension started to take over as I realized I had no control, yet he showered me with adoration and reassurance whilst maintaining his domineering stature. My usual instinct to seize control forced me to resist, but he wouldn’t let me and instead applied himself more intensely. I could feel my entire body clench as he teased me with alternating levels of vibrations.
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In moments where it became too intense, he would look me in the eyes and tell me it was alright, easing my mind. The sensations rolled over my body like waves from a warm ocean. Again I rebelled and he pushed back even more as if to punish me for trying to escape. The rougher he was with me the more aroused I became here I was finally being put in my place. I began reacting uncontrollably to his touch.
Finally, the moment had come, the moment right before climax where I would usually stop taking a moment to recollect. He could tell I had reached this point and he asserted himself onto me, pushing me beyond any sexual threshold I have ever experienced. I tensed up and I began to shake rapidly completely melting in ecstasy as I experienced the best orgasm I have ever had. I had finally had the sexual experience I had been longing for and although I don't plan on giving up control in my day to day life, this was certainly something I could get used too.
Shay Night is a writer at BUST Magazine, singer, dancer and event planner living in Brooklyn, NY. She is She is currently the lead singer in the prog r&b band Espejismo and owner at Barranquilla Studios. Janeth has hosted hundreds of bands and fans alike and is an active member in the NYC music and cultural communities